By Dr. Kacie Crisp
I was asked that question recently. At first I found it tough toanswer, because I had the point of view that I don’t give up my voice in relationships. (I have been happily married with my husband David Caddy for more than 30 years, and Access Founder Gary Douglas uses us as an example of a relationship that actually works.)
David and I are both ourselves in our relationship, and we say whatever we like without fear of judgment.
And still, I discovered that there are actually LOTS of ways that I DO give up my own voice in our relationships. Oops!
Giving up your voice can be as subtle as having a slight knowing or intuition that feather touch on your cheek and talking yourself out of it because you don’t want to upset your partner.
This occurred for me on Christmas Eve, when we were driving through Mexico, in the midst of a gas shortage. We didn’t “know” about the gas shortage at the time, because we hadn’t yet run into any closed gas stations. As we stopped to change drivers because David had a headache, I saw that the convenience store we stopped at also sold gas. “We could get some gas here,” I thought. That was my knowing stroking my cheek lightly.
But I talked myself out of it. (In my head.) In fact, this whole story happened in my head, except for the running out of gas that happened later. I talked myself out of it by saying, “David would say, ‘Don’t bother, we can get it later, let’s just keep going.’ He has a headache already, I don’t want to bother him.”
Not only did I give up my voice,but I gave up my voice in favor of what I suspected David would say. He didn’t even have to say anything!
So what happened when I gave up my voice? We ended up with the gas light on in the epicenter of the fuel shortage in Mexico. On Christmas Eve, with no information available, and without either of us speaking Spanish.
When I searched “gas shortage in Mexico” on google, it said the worst area for the fuel shortage at that time was San Luis Potosi. Where were we, with no gas and all the stations closed/sold out/ with lines 4 blocks long if they had any gas at all? You guess it—San Luis Potosi!
If I had listened to my knowing, that little voice that said, “You can get gas here,” we would have cruised right through San Luis Potosi and ended up in states where the gas shortage had not hit!
So I could get philosophical and say, if you give up your voice in your relationship, the person you’re with won’t actually get to have the very person he/she fell in love with at the time. You’re robbing both them and you.
And that’s true. But if you give up your voice, you might have more dramatic, immediate consequences—like being out of gas in central Mexico on Christmas Eve, without a word of Spanish.
So what’s it like to NEVER give up your voice in relationships? I can’t tell you, as obviously I’m not there yet!
I can tell you that the tools of Right Voice for You work phenomenally to decrease the frequency of it, and to allow me to be aware when I do it, so I can change in the next 10 seconds.
What if adapting and conforming to have the same points of views as everyone else limits your money flows? As much as we care about our family, friends, teachers, religion, and culture, we adopt their thinking automatically, often without being aware of how these views will influence our choices in the future.
Instead of blindly following other people’s points of view about money, you can easily grow your own money brain with these 3 steps.
1. Educate yourself about money and how it functions.
Educating yourself about money will open up a space for you to see the myths, lies, and fears that have been making your financial decisions. You may be extremely uncomfortable! But when you stop blindly following what you’ve been told, you will start trusting your own awareness of what you know and don’t know. Then you have control of your money and future.
One of the fastest ways to educate yourself is by asking questions. Ask questions until you have clarity with your situation.
2. Eliminate as much confusion about money as possible.
Having adequate information creates ease. If you are confused, you are missing information.
Do not ignore your knowing. Ask yourself these questions:
Write down ALL the answers that come to you.
If you have to, you can always Google specific vocabulary, banking and taxation information.
This list will keep growing. Add to it whenever you have a new awareness. You may be surprised at how much you actually would like to learn.
The important thing is to just start!
3.Be willing to ask for help.
Educating yourself doesn’t mean you have to know it all…you just need to be willing to ask questions. If you don’t know something, who can you ask to help? As Gary Douglas, founder of Access Consciousness, says
There are no stupid questions; only stupid people who don’t ask.
Guest Blog Post by Dr. Glenna Rice
Most people see their bodies as a fairly permanent structure. They will allow for growing as children, aging as an adult, some weight loss or gain over the years and a few diseases; but that is about it. Are you aware of how much change your body is generating every day? What might surprise you to know is that our bodies are actually in a state of constant flux; with new cells and changes in its structure being generated continuously!
Let’s take a look inside your body
So how do we create our body?
Here’s an interesting point of view:
An incredible amount of the creation of our body daily is from our points of view, projections, expectations, separation and judgments of our bodies. If you are projecting that your body is getting old, ugly, sick or fat then that is the “invocation,” the “spell” you are using to create it. We are much more powerful than we know and our bodies our very adept at creating themselves continuously from our stupid, erroneous and judgmental points of views.
How many times a day do you judge your body? More than a thousand or less? For most people, they think or even say aloud hundreds of judgments about their body each and every day.
It is the judgment, spoken or unspoken, that you are using to let the body know how it should create for you every day. And although your body needs to constantly change, or lest it would die, what it ends up doing is constantly change into the same fixed points of view you have based on the judgments and projections and expectations you are giving it.
It creates the same thing every day, with a little aging and dis-ease attached. We just re-generate what we have from judgment. What if we could generate something new and different with our bodies? What could be possible with our bodies we have never considered?
Here’s what you can hear in any coffee shop or telephone call on a normal day:
“I didn’t get any sleep.” “I am so tired.” “My body hurts.” “My stomach hurts.” “My back is killing me.” “I’m getting old.” “I’m starting to look like my mother!” This is how we are telling our bodies over and over what to do for us. What your body hears is, “Be tired.” “Get old.” “Start hurting.” “Make more disease here.” “Age like your mother.”
What if there is a different possibility? What if you asked your body a question? “What would it take for us to feel amazing today, body?” “What fun could we have?” “What magic can you generate for me today?” “What joy of embodiment could you gift me today?” “Body what would you like to look like?” “What magic could we create together, body? “Hey Body! I’m so grateful for you!”
And one of my favorites, “How does it get even better than this?” Ask this question for everything that shows up in your body, whether it is a fabulous day or a funky one.
If you changed your point of view about your body and stopped judging it, could it generate something different? Yes. My point of view, and also my awareness after working with thousands of bodies around the world is exactly that.
The body is already generating brand new every day! So what if we started asking it a question? What if we contributed something besides judgment to assist it in changing? What if we nurtured its generation each day?
Doesn’t the body just do what it’s going to do and we have to deal with it?
Does it seem like the body just does what it does and you are just the effect of what it chooses? What if you actually have more effect on what your body creates than you think? If you were willing to be totally aware of your body at its most subtle levels…which is possible when you open up a communication with your body…wouldn’t it let you know when it liked what you were doing or disliked what you were doing to it?
And what if what we’ve been calling sickness, fatigue, or pain was simply your body giving you a message of what isn’t working for it?
Often we misinterpret the energy of our body changing as something being wrong or a pain or a problem. When you feel something in your body you can ask it “ Body are you changing? If it feels light to you, if you get a yes, then ask how you can contribute.
You are not helpless with your body; you are the most powerful creator of it. What would you like to choose?
Action steps to take today to open a dialogue with your body:
If your body is changing all the time what can you be that would allow it to change into something that would work greater for both of you. A joy of embodiment is possible; you only have to choose to have it!
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